The Choice to Settle

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Throughout my life I had a few existential crises, the first one being about 11- 12, an overwhelming realization on my back patio. A thought came over me; what’s the point of life? What will happen when my parents die? What am I supposed to do with my life? It was the first time in my life I questioned if my path was predestined, or was I the architect of my own future?

By 15, I experienced a profound emotional low or depression. I felt a disconnect from the superficiality around me, realizing that many social bonds were built on appearance rather than character. It felt like a loss of innocence. I realized that people were appreciated for what they looked like and for what you could gain from their “ friendship” .Fortunately, my final years of high school brought enduring friendships, yet that "shadow" occasionally returned, leading me to question my place in this reality.

Image Credit: "mother holding her belly" by Sie7e Fotos. Licensing available via 500px.

As the years went by and moments in the black hole made me think a lot and notice how many people around me settle for many things in life and this is why everyone looked happy and fulfilled with their life . Women have to settle for many things and fast, for example, getting married to have a family and get pregnant, society always reminds us that the clock is ticking. 

We are often told to "never settle," but is that advice realistic? Choosing to settle can be a conscious trade-off for stability, mental health, or simplicity. This post examines the fine line between finding true contentment and simply stopping the pursuit, offering a fresh perspective on what it means to choose "enough" over "everything."

Today, I still face the temptation to choose the "standard" life. While I still live in the same town, and follow a routine like everyone else, I try to do it my way, with a purpose. I strive to act with intention. I refuse to simply "drift" through existence ( better now that never). If you must go with the flow for a time, don't fear it, just use that time to find the stream that truly belongs to you. People like us, always find a way. 

What have you settled for in life? What remains non-negotiable for you?

The Lobster

In a dystopian near future, single people, according to the laws of The City, are taken to The Hotel, where they are obliged to find a romantic partner in forty-five days or are transformed into beasts and sent off into The Woods. – Source: imdb

Directed by Yorgos Lanthimos and starring  Colin Farrell, Rachel Weisz, and Léa Seydoux. This “Avant Garde” movie is set on a society where single people are not accepted, they are the outcasts. Society thinks single people should not exist, it is illegal and it’s even dangerous to be a single person.

The single individuals are taken to a hotel, where a set of rules are given to them; they only got 45 days to find a mate, otherwise they will be converted into animals (of their choice). This world, like any other society, have a group of outcast that are hidden from society and also very much organize too. I do not want to give more away. The movie is entertaining and very interesting, just the thought of a society like this one sounds crazy but …when you think about it, we live in a crazy society too.

When I saw The Lobster the first thought that came to my mind was: “The story in this movie is not so different from the real world” In today’s world you become an outcast in certain situations like: when you are single, when you don’t have kids, when you don’t have the ideal body type, when you have a certain look and so on and so forth. People judge us because of how we live and especially in traditional society (like mine) If you haven't achieve certain things by the time you turn 30, you are strange and even called unlucky (but that is a post for another night).

We do have love involved in the story and we see what one guy is capable to do to find the right mate or to keep it by his side. We are living in a decade (I dare to say) where everybody is obsessed to find love! Since we have the world in the palm of our hands ...or sometimes in our back pocket, we think it should be easier to find love but it is not. 

I do recommend this movie, it is one of those movies that are underrated and maybe it didn’t make it to your local movie theater but you have to find it and watch it.

I give it...Ten Pop Corns!

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Halloween is everyday

Halloweenophile

This follows the classic Greek suffix -phile (meaning "lover of"). It’s the most common term you'll find in online communities and among die-hard fans of the spooky season.

Fun Fact: If you are one of these people who keeps the decorations up until December, you might be part of the "Summerween" or "Creepmas" subcultures, where Halloween is a lifestyle rather than just a day.

I love mainly love Halloween because people like me are visible and everything is Halloween land ( depending on where you live) . In my town there are some places that decorate accordingly, there are parties, theme foods and scarry movies on TV.

{ Urban Photography } in La Paz.

Come to Bolivia and visit La Paz , you will find it to be a great, busy, crazy and different place to be . Where the modern world meets the past in every corner!

If you want to see more photos, please visit { 7 Fotos } to see a little more of the photos I took a while ago.