The Courage to Begin Again: When Comfort Isn't Peace

"I prefer to hold on to the good things, to what makes me happy and gives me peace. It may not always be something tangible, but I know it exists."

(...) When all we want is to stay in the same place, without drawing attention to ourselves and without taking risks, comfort always welcomes us with open arms. Perhaps we'll never be the best, but we can always give our best.

And maybe that's what growing up is about: understanding that starting over doesn't mean having failed, but rather having the courage to choose a different path. Every new beginning forces us to leave behind a version of ourselves that no longer represents us. It's scary, yes, but it's also the only way to discover how far we're capable of going.

So, do we continue as we are or do we start again?

This was the title of a post I wrote more than ten years ago, along with the reflection I had at the time. While I was somewhat aware of this topic, I didn't fully understand it until many years later, unfortunately for me. I, too, fell into my comfort zone, into the space between traditional parenting before the internet and the world after it. It always felt like I had to choose one side or the other, which caused me to stagnate in many ways a war between moving forward and what I thought was comfort, but part of that became immobility.

Comfort doesn't always bring peace; sometimes it just keeps us immobile, trapped in a place where we stop growing. Fear convinces us that it's better not to try, that it's safer not to stand out, that it's preferable to settle rather than risk failing. However, the greatest risk can be staying where you no longer belong.

Why does this happen?

Anxiety relief: Making your own decisions and using free will generates uncertainty. Following the social script is predictable and safe.

Cultural validation: Meeting family and social expectations guarantees acceptance and avoids rejection or isolation.

Lack of introspection: Daily routines and constant stimulation act like anesthetics, preventing people from stopping to think, "Is this really what I want?"Living this way reduces immediate conflict, but in the long run, it often transforms into a midlife crisis, existential emptiness, or deep, chronic dissatisfaction.

The fear of being judged when we decide to change: Change will be noticeable in every aspect, and many people may not be prepared to be questioned or judged about the change in their appearance, their way of doing things, speaking, thinking, and their overall life change.

In my case, I entered and exited this cycle of repetition at different times in my life and for different reasons. Perhaps I believed I wasn't in the right place, perhaps things didn't turn out as I imagined, or perhaps I simply wanted to avoid disappointment at an unconscious level. As I said, one can easily confuse comfort with peace.

What is the difference between being comfortable and being at peace?

At first glance, they seem the same, but the difference is significant. It is said that:

Comfort is a form or state of self-protection: it arises from familiarity and certainty. The danger of comfort is when we remain in that state out of apathy and fear, not out of a conscious choice to recharge our energy. It doesn't challenge you, it doesn't expose you to failure, nor does it force you to confront your doubts. Comfort seeks to avoid discomfort. In the long run, comfort without growth can turn into apathy, a feeling that "something is missing."

Peace is a state of wholeness: it arises from inner alignment and purpose; it requires that what you are doing or experiencing aligns with your values ​​and with who you truly are. Peace embraces uncertainty; it expands you. It gives you clarity, renewed energy, and even when the process of change requires physical or mental effort, peace does not emotionally exhaust you.

*Fulfillment (the state of well-being, balance, and deep satisfaction we experience when we feel complete. It doesn't imply the absence of problems, but rather a sense of inner peace and harmony.)

Mediocrity and Averageness

Mediocrity is defined as:

• The state of being average when the capacity or potential to be better exists.
• An attitude toward life characterized by a lack of aspiration.
• A mental comfort zone where a person settles for "just getting by."
• It is the conscious renunciation of your own potential due to fear, laziness, or resignation.

Being average is defined as:

• Not standing out, nor being the best or the worst in most aspects.
• Leading a lifestyle that coincides with the vast majority of the population in your context.
• Being satisfied with "enough" instead of always wanting "more." or being seen. 

It is peace, sobriety, or voluntary simplicity.

The importance of making mistakes to discover who you are.

When you learn something new, you often make mistakes, and from those mistakes, you learn to do the right thing. This happens to us throughout our lives because we are always growing and learning. If we want to know what will work for our new life, outside the bubble of comfort and dissatisfaction we feel, we have no choice but to try what does and what doesn't.

I can't immediately think of what I did as mistakes. I believe that everything I went through was an experience, and without those experiences, I wouldn't have learned what I wanted and didn't want. Other people will see their experiences as genuine mistakes, but they will arrive at the same conclusion.

The Invisible Cost of Not Making Decisions.

Not making decisions and letting yourself be carried away by day-to-day life, living on autopilot, without anything new that can change your day, comes at a cost. It leads to extreme comfort and also to forced mediocrity, and without realizing it, you're trapped in a lifestyle you didn't plan, and many years of your life have passed and will continue to pass in that same state.

What can you learn from this?

Think about the person you were ten years ago. What advice would you give her/him today with everything you've learned? Now do the same exercise with the person you were five years ago.

Why two versions of yourself? Because the person from ten years ago can remind you of dreams, interests, and plans you've forgotten over time, and which may still be part of who you are.

The person from five years ago, on the other hand, is close enough to help you identify the decisions, fears, or habits that led you to your current situation. It will help you investigate where you strayed from the path.

It's not about living in the past or blaming yourself for your decisions. Think of it like cleaning your room: you throw away what's useless or doesn't mean anything to you; Then you rescue and find a new place for what you value. Reclaim what makes sense to you and use the experience you have today. This will help us discover which part of our past self still represents us.

Starting over doesn't always mean becoming someone else; sometimes it means rediscovering an authentic part of yourself that you had left behind.

The Moon:"The light that shines over all lands."🌙

 

I often wonder how many secrets the moon has already heard whispered into the night. How many stolen kisses, silent goodbyes, desperate prayers, and promises meant to last forever have risen towards her pale light? How many secret encounters has she witnessed? And how many forgotten creatures has she watched emerge from the darkness before disappearing again with the dawn?

No matter where we wander, she follows without judgement, illuminating forgotten roads, abandoned cemeteries, lonely rooftops, and restless souls. She reminds us that even in our most solitary moments, we are never truly alone. Someone or something has always been watching. Perhaps that is why the moon has become one of the oldest symbols in folklore. She has inspired lovers, poets, witches, and monsters alike. Under her glow, ordinary people have imagined impossible things, and legends have been born, out of fear, out of hope. 

      Even a man who is pure in heart and says his prayers by night, May become a wolf when the wolfbane blooms And the autumn moon is bright.
-   Maria Ouspenskaya's  ("The Wolf Man" 1941)

The oldest Moon myth

Around 2100 BC, the Sumerians wrote myths explaining why the Moon waxes and wanes.

They believed Nanna sailed across the night sky every evening before disappearing into the underworld during the new moon. This is one of humanity's oldest recorded explanations for the Moon's phases.

🌙 Wear the Moon with you.

This is an ancient Moon passage that comes from a Sumerian hymn:

"Father Nanna, whose radiance fills the heavens, whose light covers the land."

Someone wrote those words over 4,000 years ago, and every night we are looking at the same Moon they were.

This is the oldest surviving photograph of the Moon,

It was captured on March 26, 1840, by American scientist and NYU professor John William Draper. He used the early daguerreotype process with a 5-inch reflecting telescope on a New York City rooftop, capturing the lunar image with a 20-minute exposure.

Before Draper’s success, French inventor Louis Daguerre (the pioneer of photography) reportedly attempted to capture the Moon on January 2, 1839. However, his attempt was blurry, and his entire laboratory burned down a few months later, destroying all of his original images. This left Draper's 1840 daguerreotype as the oldest one left in existence. Sorce: HERE

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Last night I met the Moon because she, too, seemed lonely. I stayed with her for a while, and we spoke in silence. She told me she had seen you.She refused to tell me where you were.

Instead, she smiled and whispered that you were searching for me beneath the very same sky. That somewhere, under the same ancient Moon, you were looking upward, hoping the stars would answer the questions we have been asking for decades.

Pale ✝ Angel 

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When PETA confronted Lindsay Lohan : The 2008 Fur Protest Explained

Animal rights activists PETA caught Lohan wearing a fur coat in Paris, and as expected, PETA supporters confronted her.

People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals (PETA) has attacked Lindsay Lohan in the past due to her fashion taste in using animal fur. Back in 2008, Lohan was heading to a club in Paris. This is where an anti-fur campaigner and PETA supporter showered Lohan with flour. 

Lohan's friend/girlfriend at the time was also furious, apparently she was also covered with flour. She posted a message on the then-popular social media platform, MySpace. MySpace, to defend her then girlfriend. She said: “The girl who threw [the flour] acted like an animal herself.” “I take that back; it’s an insult to animals to group her in with them; my dog is FAR more civilized than that person,” she added “I think there are plenty of families that could have used that flour for a meal. Nice job, lady.” Biscuits, anyone?

According to Los Angeles Daily News, Lohan was initially "mortified and then furious" before the club owner helped vacuum the flour off her blue sequined dress and black fur stole.

PETA never apologized;I think no one really expected that. They made more comments mocking her and her fashion style and choices: 

"Lindsay Lohan might be able to ignore images of bloody animals skinned alive for their pelts, but we hope a dash of flour will help her rise to the occasion and forsake fur once and for all." 

 

PETA pointed out that Lohan had already earned a spot on their 2008 Worst-Dressed List, where they previously stated there was "no road to recovery for the foxes who are anally electrocuted so that you can look skanky." 

Is Lindsay Lohan wearing real fur nowadays?

The shift among high-end luxury brands from using real animal materials to faux fur and leather began in earnest in the 2010s. Of course, this battle was always around.  We will never know if Lohan stopped using animal materials in her clothes because of a change of heart, because the internet hate became a strong force to "cancel" celebrities or because her favorite brands also had to stop using those materials, but apparently she now uses faux fur.

By the mid-2020s, top luxury design houses (like Michael Kors) adopted firm fur-free policies, and Lohan's current stylists now consistently dress her in ethical, faux-fur alternatives.

 

Lindsay is not the first celebrity, and won't be the last, to be targeted by protesters or animal defenders. Another situation that comes to mind is when Kim Kardashian was also confronted with flour by an anti-fur activist and PETA supporter. The activist called her "fur hag, she and her sister were accused of using real fur. 

Nearly two decades later, the incident remains one of the most memorable celebrity protests of the 2000s. Whether viewed as effective activism or an unnecessary publicity stunt, it reflected a period when fashion, celebrity culture, and animal rights collided in increasingly public ways. Today, the fashion industry is very different. 

How do we know if brands sell real fur and leather products to wealthy customers behind the counter?

 

Here is how the system actually operates and how consumers can look past the public marketing.

Distinct Corporate Alliances

Not all luxury houses have banned fur. The industry is divided by corporate ownership, and they are quite transparent about it. If you see fur in a high-end salon, it is likely because that specific brand never promised to stop using it.

• The Kering Group: Brands under this umbrella—including Gucci, Saint Laurent, and Bottega Veneta—have strict, group-wide public bans on animal fur. [
• The LVMH Conglomerate: This powerhouse—which owns Louis Vuitton, Dior, and Fendi—explicitly allows its designers creative freedom to use real fur, provided it is ethically traced via programs like Furmark. They do not hide this; they sell it openly to their top clientele. source: here

How to Verify the Material Yourself

If you are holding a luxury garment and want to confirm what it is made of, use these physical checks:

Test Method	Real Fur / Leather	Faux Fur / Leather
The Base Test	Push the hair apart. Real fur is rooted into animal skin/leather.	Pushing the hair apart reveals a woven, threaded fabric backing.
The Burn Test	Singeing a stray strand smells like burning human hair.	Singeing a strand smells like melting chemical plastic.
The Texture	Feels completely smooth, soft, and slick to the touch.	Can feel slightly coarse, uniform, or sticky in humid air.

Source: here

What happened to Schapelle Corby ?

 

Years ago, in 2008 to be exact, I talked about Schapelle Corby. Schapelle is an Australian woman who was jailed in Bali,Indonesia for nine years after being accused of drug trafficking. Corby has publicly maintained that the drugs were planted in her bodyboard bag and that she did not know about them.

Corby was convicted in 2005 and sentenced to 20 years in jail. In May 2012, she was granted a five-year sentence reduction. Corby was released on parole on 10 February 2014 after serving nine years in prison. On 27 May 2017, she was deported and returned to Australia.

The case was really big in Australia; there were many calls to set Schapelle free or for her to be allowed to go back to her country. During this media frenzy, there were a few rumors accusing her whole family of being drug traffickers and dealers, dragging them into the controversy back at home.

While jailed, Schapelle suffered from mental health issues and needed medication to keep her healthy and sane. As you can imagine, Schapelle's situation also took a toll on her family. They had to keep paying for legal fees—probably for her safety—and her sister had to travel to Bali many times. Her sister ultimately established her life there while Schapelle was in jail, all to be there for her.

Once she went back to Australia, many reporters were waiting for her. She had to spend many weeks hiding because she first needed to deal with the past nine years spent in a jail in a different country. Corby settled on Queensland's Gold Coast, where she has kept a relatively low profile.

Because of Australian Proceeds of Crime laws, she was strictly prohibited from cashing in or profiting from any media arrangements regarding her conviction or time in prison. Australia's Proceeds of Crime Act 2002 features strict provisions called "literary proceeds orders." These laws ensure that a person cannot financially exploit their criminal notoriety.

Currently, Schapelle is single and has even shared publicly that she’s looking for love. Her most famous relationship was a long-term romance with Ben Panangian, an Indonesian surfer and paddleboard instructor she met back in 2006 while she was in Kerobokan Prison.

Since returning to Australia, Schapelle Corby has rebuilt a quieter life on Queensland's Gold Coast. While she is well known for creating and selling beach-inspired epoxy resin art clocks through Instagram, she has explained that it is a creative hobby rather than her main source of income, and she continues to work a regular day job. Corby has also returned briefly to public life through appearances on SAS Australia (2020) and Dancing with the Stars (2021). In 2019, she was required to forfeit earnings from the updated edition of her autobiography, My Story, under Australia's Proceeds of Crime Act. Today, one of her most consistent public contributions is encouraging Australians to donate blood, regularly sharing her own donations to the Australian Red Cross Lifeblood network and promoting the importance of giving blood to help others.

She co-wrote a book with Australian journalist Kathryn Bonella in 2006, and in 2019, they presented an updated version of the book. She keeps working on her life and letting people know that she is innocent because, according to her, she was wrongfully accused, nowadays she mainly keeps a quiet life.

Today, Schapelle Corby's story is no longer just about one of Australia's most controversial criminal cases. It is also a story of rebuilding a life after years of intense public scrutiny, finding normality, and quietly moving forward. Whether viewed with sympathy or skepticism, her journey continues to spark debate about justice, redemption, and the lasting impact of media attention.

Have you ever heard about this story? Did you believe her ?